“Speak the Truth with Love”

Speak honestly and directly in a way that clearly reflects love and support for one another. Be courageous enough to say what needs to be said, even when it’s difficult. Address issues directly with those who are involved or affected; speak to, not about, others.
  • Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. (Ephesians 4: 29)
  • Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. (Ephesians 4: 31)
  • Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ, who is the head of his body, the church (Ephesians 4: 15)
As we begin the exciting work of shaping the culture of our Church Family, this second Way reminds us that we’re committed to telling the truth to each other and we’re committed to loving one another. At this church, we’re chained to each commitment. At a personal level, I need to stay open to hearing truth and receiving love. Those who love me best bring both to me and I won’t grow in my Christian faith without those friends speaking the truth with love.
I can remember moments from the past when someone loved me enough to tell me something hard. Perhaps I said a hurtful word or I made a foolish decision or I sinned greatly. I can look back gratefully now, though it was painful then, as I recall the gift of truth given me. At that moment truth functions very much like a bright light in a dark room. A word of truth spoken with love helps me see and thus change. I don’t have to continue living selfishly or hurtfully. I can live differently thanks to those who speak to me directly, truthfully and lovingly.
“Well-meant are the wounds a friend inflicts, but profuse are the kisses of an enemy.”  – Proverbs 27: 6
Stuart Spencer, Pastor