“Accept and Don’t Cast Stones” WAY #19

WAY #19. ACCEPT AND DON’T CAST STONES. God’s love opens the doors of our church to all people. Just as Jesus did, welcome people as they are. It’s not up to us to judge. Love unconditionally, and as Christ has received you, receive others.
Scriptures: 1 Timothy 2: 6- 7; Luke 15: 1-2; Romans 15: 7
 
YEARS AGO ON A sunny September day in east Los Angeles, I found myself standing in the middle of a noisy courtyard surrounded by teens eating lunch. It was my first day at San Marino High School as a volunteer Young Life leader. I was there to meet students, strike up conversations, and invite them to youth group. Driving to campus earlier that day, I had a game plan: Find parking. Walk onto campus like you know what you’re doing. Be confident. I found parking, but anything resembling confidence had been lost somewhere along the 210 freeway. Who knew walking back onto a high school campus could bring back all the old fears like vulnerability, rejection and self-doubt.
 
Way #19 takes me back to my Young Life days when my heart and eyes were really opened to the relational nature of Jesus’ ministry. Jesus loved spending time with messy people because he saw past the surface, far beyond our fear-based judgments and straight into the heart of humanity — our universal need to love and be loved. Love can only happen in relationship with Jesus and with other people. Or more specifically, through extravagant friendship.
 
“I came not to judge the world, but to save the world!,” Jesus shouts in John 12. Watch!, Jesus is saying. Watch how extravagant friendship—love without judgment and expectation—can free you, transform you, enliven the church, our neighborhoods, the world! Watch how unconditional love can liberate humanity from its fearful, selfish nature! C.S. Lewis puts it another way: “Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art, like the universe itself (for God did not need to create). It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.”
 
On my first day at San Marino High School, there was no difference between me and the hundreds of students that huddled in their lunchtime cliques. We all were hungry for acceptance and love and probably some Oreos, too. Which is when I heard eight memorable words from a freshman girl nearby: “You can sit with us if you want.” So I did. They sounded like Jesus’ words, because they were. Words of invitation, belonging and extravagant friendship.
 
Kelly LePenske

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“Ask For Help” WAY #18

WAY #18. ASK FOR HELP. Part of being a real and authentic member of the church is to acknowledge your weaknesses and to be willing to ask for God’s help and the support of others. None of us can go it alone. Vulnerability is a sign of strength and a gift to others. Scriptures: Psalm 107:6; 2 Corinthians 12: 9; 1 Corinthians 15: 10
 
SOMETIMES IT IS VERY HARD to ask for help. The thing is, we often need help. And sometimes the only way to get that help is to ask for it.
 
Part of being a Christian means relying on God for help. We can pray directly to God. We can ask the church to pray for us. We can talk to the minister. What we should realize is that God’s answer can come in many ways. One way God can answer your prayer is by putting a Stephen Minister in your life.
 
One of the ministries of the church is the Stephen Ministry. Stephen was the first martyr, but he also thought of the idea of sending more than just the apostles to help others. When Kenneth Haugk began the Stephen ministry program 40 years ago, he decided that lay people who received training could provide distinctively Christian care to other members of the church. Ordained clergy are often spread too thin to be able to do this. That is where Stephen ministers come in.
 
In our church, many lay people have answered the call to become a Stephen Minister, completing the 50 hour training program. We currently have 14 active Stephen Ministers including five active Stephen Leaders who have gone for extra training to help run the program at our church. A Stephen Minister will meet with you for about one hour each week. He or she will listen to your problems and help you get through the tough times with God’s guidance.
 
Stephen Ministry provides a safe place to ask for help. This confidential program only works when caregivers are paired with care receivers. The difficult part of this ministry is getting those who need help to ask for it. Sometimes a friend or family member will suggest that you ask for a Stephen Minister. Remember none of us can go it alone. Ask for help.
 
Doris Kahley, Stephen Leader

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“Show Who You Really Are” WAY #17

WAY 17. SHOW WHO YOU REALLY ARE. Our church is for “real” people. Bring your true self, including your joys, your sorrows, your fears, your strengths and your weaknesses. God loves you as you are. Don’t hide your struggles, failures or problems.
 
CHANCES ARE YOU’VE HEARD the phrase before: “Church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints.” Some attribute this saying to St. Augustine of Hippo, others to John Chrysostom, a great preacher in the early church during the late 300s. Either way, this phrase poses a question for the church throughout history, and for First Presbyterian Church today. Do we agree with this statement only in theory, or do our hands and hearts bear witness to God’s love for all?
 
The professors, youth group leaders and mentors who transformed my life through discipleship each have different stories, yet there’s a common denominator, or word, that connects them all—imperfect. Whether it was Carina (my high school Young Life leader), Michael (my first theology professor), or Dave (my Young Life boss in Los Angeles), they all taught me that the most important thing I can bring to Christ is my whole imperfect self. Not part of me, or the polished I’ve-got-it-all-together me, but ALL of me. My fears, my insecurities, my anger, my sorrow, the hurt I inflicted upon others. “Bring your whole self to me,” Jesus says. Then, and only then, can we discover what Christ has in store for everyone: transformation and healing, joy and hope, love and new life!
 
The first step in Alcoholics Anonymous is to admit your powerlessness, to own the truth that your life has become unmanageable and unhealthy. Isn’t this what our call to confession is all about every Sunday morning in worship? To declare and accept that our ways are not God’s ways, that we are, in fact, imperfect people? And here’s the Good News: God LOVES imperfect people, and He loves partnering with them. Not in theory, but actually! St. Augustine says exactly this in The City of God. “God is always trying to give good things to us, but our hands are too full to receive them.”
 
It’s time to set down the mask, empty your hands and heart of pretenses, and show who you really are. Bring your whole imperfect self to Jesus and to First Presbyterian Church. And remember Paul’s words: “But Jesus said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” (2 Cor. 12:9)
Kelly LePenske

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“Give Cheerfully” WAY #16

WAY #16. GIVE CHEERFULLY. Rejoice, you get to give! Think of giving as a privilege rather than an obligation, a joy instead of a burden. As you consider all that’s been entrusted to you—time, abilities and money—ask, “How is God calling me to share what I’ve been given?”
Read 2 Corinthians 9: 7; Luke 6: 38
 
Friends, Consider giving your time, talents, and financial resources to the church. It is the constant refrain this time of year. When we are generous with our time, it shows in the quality of our relationships, at work, family, church, etc. If you are generous with your talent, I suspect that the same outcome would apply – better relationships in every endeavor. If you are generous with your financial resources, shouldn’t this also be the same? The difference is that when you are generous with your financial resources in your church relationship, it is one way that you are expressing your generosity in your faithful relationship to God.
 
The act of giving requires a leap of faith for some. Throughout our stewardship program we highlighted different testimonials from Brian Perkowski, Steve Shaffer, Jeff, and Jenny Legath that all echoed a similar theme — that it was difficult in the beginning. Still, they got themselves into a place of trust, and when they turned their financial resources over to God, things changed, and their lives turned in a decidedly positive direction.
 
There aren’t any guarantees that your giving will lead to a successful outcome. A challenge has been issued to consider a small increase in your giving and see if you don’t experience these positive ways that the Lord will work similarly in your life. So, here is my final challenge for this stewardship campaign, if you are not currently active through the church’s many programs, find something that suits your specific talents and become engaged in the work of the church. Our church is always seeking intelligent and hard-working people. It has been a great experience serving our church in this stewardship capacity because I’m able to get a firsthand view of all of the great work that is done by our church staff, its lay leadership, and the many people who generously give their time. Thank you in advance for another terrific year!
 
Elder Mike Baker

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“Welcome Change” WAY 15

WAY 15.   WELCOME CHANGE. Be curious about new ideas, perspectives, and approaches. Get excited by the possibilities that change can bring. What worked in the past won’t always work in the future, for God is doing new things.
– Mark 2: 22; Revelation 21:6, 2 Corinthians 5:17
 
LET’S BE HONEST. We hate change. I do. I used to listen to my favorite music from a website called Groove Shark. I loved it. I had it figured out and I could access all my favorite tunes. Then Groove Shark got into legal trouble with all the music artists on their sites. I got an email that coldly informed me that Groove Shark was no more because the Groove Shark guys were going to jail for a while. Bye-bye Groove Shark! Hello, Spotify. I didn’t like this new music source simply because it wasn’t Groove Shark.
 
Church people hate change: Don’t mess with my worship times. Don’t fool with my favorite hymns. And most of all, don’t sit in my pew.
I’m grateful that this Way sits right in the middle of our Twenty-Five Ways because God loves change and I believe He’s rubbing His hands in glee because He has a lot of changes in store for you and for us.
 
Let me offer three important guidelines to help us as God brings us change that I learned from the book, Canoeing the Mountains by Fuller Seminary’s Tod Bolsinger.
 
First, some things must never change. “What are the key elements of our theology, tradition, ministry practices and organizational culture that must be maintained at all costs because to lose them would be to lose our identity?” Be careful as you think through the matters that Bolsinger declares must never change. There aren’t many items on the list.
 
Second, what should be discarded? What can we stop doing or let die so we can free resources and energy for new forms of ministry [and mission]? Remember this: people [including you] don’t resist change. They resist loss. With change and something new comes loss and letting go. Loss is what makes change hard.
 
Third, what needs to be tried here? What kinds of experiments should we attempt? Today, we’re going to have to try and fail in order to grow and change. “What essential part of the church’s identity and mission needs to be adapted to a new day, environment or opportunity? How can the church keep doing the things it is called to do, but in a way that resonates, connects, serves and challenges people who wouldn’t otherwise pay it any attention?
 
The promise of change is bound up in God’s certain promise: Behold, I am making all things new!
 
Stuart Spencer

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“Grow Faith” WAY #14

WAY #14. GROW FAITH. Take advantage of every chance you have to form your faith—through small groups, classes, and personal study. Be a disciple and look to learn from those who know more of the Bible and Christian life than you do, then look for opportunities to share what you’ve gained with someone else.
 
I STILL REMEMBER what Pastor Meyers said in 1979 when he invited me to join First Presbyterian Church — “In the church we study and learn together.” He said this to correct my misguided notion that the church is a place for “accomplished” Christians. That was the encouragement I needed as I had many questions to be answered about the Bible, Christianity and the Christian faith.
 
Way #14 encourages us to “take advantage of every chance you have to form your faith through small groups, classes, and personal study.” Throughout the years, various small groups have helped me to learn who God is, what the Bible says, to grow in faith and live out what I learned. There is great value in small groups in addition to large group gatherings. Small groups help to build close friendships and a support system to minister to each other. They provide a safe place to share our experiences and needs as well as to pray freely for each other. As a result of regular meetings, people become accountable to each other, speak the truth, express care, and feel comfortable to participate in deeper discussions.
 
In small groups we are encouraged to grow spiritually, deepen our faith, develop our greater connection to the body of Christ, the Church, and to become his disciples to go out and “share what you’ve gained with someone else (Way #14).” In Jesus’ early ministry he appointed twelve disciples to form a “small group,” a group to build a special teacher student relationship, so that they might be with him and that he might send them out to preach the gospel. (Mark 3:13-14)
 
I encourage you to join one of the many small groups our church offers so you can find kindred spirits, meet your needs and grow in faith to become Christ’s disciple. Sign ups are open on the church web site www.fpcmoorestown.org!
 
Rumi Sinunu

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‘Open Doors for Others to Lead’ WAY #13

WAY #13 OPEN DOORS FOR OTHERS TO LEAD. Encourage others to step into leadership by sharing responsibilities and mentoring. Let go of the jobs you’ve always done, and allow new leaders to emerge. Remember that our youth and young adults are not the future but are vitally important to our present.
 
“Therefore, go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” (Matthew 28:19-20)
 
I have been blessed to have parents who believed that their children be given an opportunity to lead. I have been member of the church since I joined in high school, a long time ago! I have seen and been involved in many aspects of church life, but I did not have to wait until I was in middle age or older to have the opportunity to serve on the many boards of this church. A session member reminded me that my Dad was always encouraging session to have the younger generation serve. In my other life, coaching and officiating, I have involved high school students in the youth field hockey program as coaches. As an official, I have been mentored throughout my career and now mentor the new officials.
 
Lately I have tried to encourage the Nominating Committee to look for younger members for the many boards. So, if asked, please consider answering yes. You will have the opportunity to meet different members of the congregation, and you will learn so much about the rich history of our church and help First Pres continue to be inter-generational. Allow God to lead you to serve. Also, encourage your friends and neighbors to get involved on a committee as an ad hoc member. Let the chair of the committee know you would like to serve; most committees can use additional volunteers willing to learn and put in the time. It doesn’t take a lot of time and your life will continue to be blessed. When the Nominating Committee asks the congregation to nominate people for the boards of the church, get to know the younger and new members of the congregation, inquire and encourage them to serve and then nominate and mentor them.
 
“Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.” (I Timothy 4:12)
 
I have served on the boards of many organizations over the years, and each board has greatly enriched my life and taught me so much. At the time, I did not see God’s hand in these opportunities, but looking back He was guiding my path, as He always does, by surrounding me with strong men and women of Christian faith. In closing, I hope I can encourage all of us to embrace and support those that are just starting out on boards and committees here at the church and give them the same opportunities that I was given many years ago. I pray we will continue to look to the next generation to carry the torch.
 
Trustee President Ginny Weber

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“Own Our Church” WAY #12

12. OWN OUR CHURCH. The work of the church isn’t defined by pastors and staff alone; it comes from each member actively participating in the life of Jesus Christ. Claim ownership of FPCM’s mission, programs, and property. Each is an expression of how God is working among us! Support others. Be informed. Volunteer for a new role. Live like you’re the church — because you are! “The work of the church isn’t defined by pastors and staff alone…Live like you’re the church, because you are.”
 
This excerpt from our FPC WAYS booklet is true for involvement in a church and many other organizations. As a college freshman, I joined a fraternity. After pledging, I chose to be a “Social Member”, coming to the house periodically and going to parties and dances. I was friendly with the brothers and pledges, but didn’t get to know any of them very well. I participated in one “work day”, and came to business meetings, but I really wasn’t in touch with house issues. I was a good Social Member, but not a “great” brother.
 
In my second year, I moved into the house and was immediately immersed in the life of my fraternity, helping brothers move in, redecorating my room, and supporting the Rush Committee. I ate, slept, studied, played intramural sports and (yes) partied with my brothers. I loved being a brother and called the chapter house my home. I was an active member, but not yet an Owner.
 
Later, I became Pledge Chairman – responsible for both rushing and training our “newbies.” While in this post for two semesters, I developed a deep relationship with our 30 new members. As an officer, I was involved in planning and executing house maintenance, social events, intramural sports, and community service programs. By the end of that year, I felt a strong level of commitment to my brothers and pride our activities. I had come to OWN our fraternity.
 
My experience at IBM was similar, where, as a trainee, I would ask “Why do YOU (meaning the IBM company) do that? After a year, I asked “Why do WE do that? It was a subtle change of the phrase, but it reflected that, I had become an Owner of IBM (one of 300,000). My church life has followed this familiar path, as I transitioned from a new member to an active member (helping the church leaders), to taking ownership for some part of church life as a Deacon, Trustee, and finally Elder.
 
Taking ownership for these organizations has meant making a larger commitment of time to work with, and for, the other members. Being an Owner has helped me better serve the organization, and get more satisfaction from my involvement. So, in the final analysis, Ownership is its Own reward. As brothers and sisters in Christ I hope you will Own Your Church and receive the rewards I have.
 
Elder Paul Grossmann

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“Make Others at Home Here” WAY 11

WAY #11: MAKE OTHERS AT HOME HERE.
Warmly welcome newcomers and visitors. Offer your name with a smile. Reach out and greet the person you don’t know after worship, during Coffee Hour, in Youth Group or Sunday school. Show a genuine interest in others. “Welcome one another, therefore, just as Christ welcomed you, for the Glory of God.” – Romans 15: 7
 
DEACONS ARE TRUE servants of the church, here to make sure others are taken care of is at the heart of who we are. This can be done in small ways: a simple greeting as you enter church. Or, by actually welcoming families into our church for a full week through IHN. We host different families 6 times a year and take care of all matters, large and small, during their stay. That could be simple fellowship, making a meal to share, or providing transportation if needed. We do what we can to make sure they feel at home.
 
We also take the welcoming spirit outside of our church walls. If home is where the heart is, we bring that heart to others via “food baskets” for Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter. We are blessed to be able to deliver 12 bags of groceries to local families during these Holidays.
 
On occasion we have the opportunity to make a difference for a congregant, or someone tied to our church in some way. These instances are truly gratifying. If you are aware of someone who is in need of being “welcomed,” please let us know how we can help. If you would like to help, Deacon’s Sunday will be November 17th and we would welcome any support.
Matt Moxhay, Deacons Moderator

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“Pray First and Pray Again” WAY #9

#9: PRAY FIRST AND PRAY AGAIN.
 
Ask first for God’s guidance and blessing in everything you do. Through prayer, ask for wisdom and for God’s will to be done. Pray for others as well, that God’s love and blessing would be revealed to them in good times and in bad.
Scriptures: Proverbs 3: 5-6; Matthew 6: 10; Ephesians 6: 18
 
 
There are many ways to pray. You can follow a prescribed order, like ACTS:
A – Adoration – tell God how much he means to you
C – Confession – name your sins
T – Thanksgiving – tell God how he has blessed you
S – Supplication – pray for the needs of others
 
Prayer, talking with God, can happen at any time, in any place. I find that the red light turns faster when I use the time to pray The Lord’s Prayer. If I am annoyed by another driver I try to pray for them, asking that they get where they need to go safely. It calms me down. When I have trouble sleeping I often pray the alphabet – asking God to bless the person or place that comes to mind as I work my way through the ABCs. Lately I have used the same format to name my blessings. I toss and turn less, letting God take over my thoughts. A simple “thank you” at the beginning of a meal is a great appetizer!
 
Several years ago I heard about PUSH – pray until something happens. I prayed for years about something, and finally was blessed with understanding. I am learning to trust Him, and lean on Him when I am worried or disappointed. Sometimes the answer to my prayer is getting a different attitude. I find I worry less when, instead of telling God what I want, I put an issue in His hands, and ask for guidance and patience. A joy shared is multiplied, a worry shared is halved. Talk to God. He is a great listener!
 
Jane Murphy

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